My Big Fat Ass
My Big Fat Ass
By Rachel Cosgrove
At the gym yesterday, sitting in my office and I hear "I can't get my big fat ass up there." I immediately throw open my office door and look to see if who I think said what I think she said and by the look on her face (as if she had just been caught in the cookie jar) she did. And then she said- "I just got busted! I didn't know you were here!"
This is one of my clients who has been working her butt off to get the body she wants. She has struggled for years and is ready once and for all to do this. She has been training hard, eating clean and her body is changing. She fits into a pair of jeans she couldn't before and she has been steadily dropping body fat.
Over her journey my biggest goal has been to get her to change the way she talks to herself because I know that even if she manages to get to where she wants to be, she won't be able to stay there with this kind of internal dialogue going on. When she started she constantly would say things like, "I am just destined to be fat." "I am frustrated; I'll never get a handle on my food." I knew that in order for her to succeed we had to change this Stinkin' Thinkin', a term I heard weight loss expert Kara Mohr use, and get her focusing on positive thoughts. I don't tolerate this kind of negative talk in my gym- it does nothing for you and it does absolutely nothing for those around you. I will not tolerate it and yes she did get busted!
The crazy thing is most women talk to themselves negatively all the time. Constantly putting themselves down and finding every flaw they have but they never recognize their own strengths. If anyone else were to talk to them the way they talk to themselves they most likely would not be friends with that person for long. Isn't it interesting that as women we think it is ok to talk to ourselves in a way that we would not tolerate anyone else talking to us? Bottom line: You don't deserve to be talked to that way! Don't let anyone tell you that you are fat, that you have no willpower, that you are frumpy…not even yourself!!!! Got it?
I am a huge believer in your mind being very closely connected to your body. I believe our bodies listen to everything we say. Every thought, every word, everything and after planting them in our subconscious, our bodies take each of these as a command for what it needs to do. We have about 50,000 thoughts a day. If the majority of these are negative, your body and life will reflect that. If you keep saying- I am fat when you are trying to lose weight, you will not succeed. If you say out loud that you have a big fat ass…guess what…your body thinks it is a command. You must start to visualize where you want to go, what you want to look like and how you want to feel and focus on that.
You may be thinking…this is fine and all until you head outside of the gym into the real world where you get surrounded by people who are constantly bombarding you with negative thoughts. "You're lifting weights? You're just going to get big and bulky and never going to lose the weight." "Why don't you just have a glass of wine and some bread…don't deprive yourself! It isn't working anyway and you're no fun these days!"
Alright girls, here is what you need to do in these situations- You are Wonder Woman! Remember Wonder Women's wrist bands? Your wrist bands deflect any negative comment. So, next time someone says something to you to try to bring you down and sap your motivation deflect the comment with your super power wrist band and don't even let it get to you.
Another scenario us girls come up against is when we are hanging with our girlfriends and one of them starts in on the body bashing comments- "I hate my pooch…" Your first instinct is to join in and say, "I have a pooch too, mine is worse than yours…" Do not do it! Do not join in with the body bashing. Again, your body is listening. Instead, tell your friend you think she looks fabulous and change the subject!
Take a moment to yourself and think about why you go to the gym everyday. Think about why you keep an eye on what you eat. Think about what it is you want from this lifestyle and what motivates you to stick to it? If you have been struggling with getting the results you want then start to listen to that voice in your head and tell it to shut up and change those thoughts to focus on where you want to go and how you will feel.
Next time you catch yourself saying, "I can't get my big fat ass up there." Or "I look fat in this outfit." Immediately catch yourself and cancel that thought with something positive and motivating!
This may seem like a touchy feely article but you won't reach your potential if you don't get your mind in the right place. The reason I get long lasting results with my clients is not just about the training programs but also about changing their mindset and their internal dialogue. Think about what I say in this article and if it applies to you then next time you have a negative thought cross your mind or cross your lips cancel it out. Next time you have a friend feeding you negative de-motivating thoughts then get your Wonder Woman Wrist Bands out and do not join in with any body bashing!
Train hard and stay focused on what you want from all of your hard work. You deserve to feel empowered, confident and have nothing but compliments and positive thoughts! You'll find that with this new attitude you'll inspire others!